The Real Picture

27 08 2008

After sending my first born to kindergarten, I began thinking of things I wished we had done during his first 5 years. Then I started questioning myself. Did I play enough? Did I work too much? Did I teach him anything at all?? Then my crazy mind wondered on… thinking even further back to when I was younger and what I pictured my life being like with kids.

Rewind back to 4″ high 80’s bangs and permed hair Amy. Got it in your mind? No the bangs were way higher!! Oh yeah, they are tall and crunchy… just right now.

I thought…

My kids would look just like me.

They would sleep though the night.

I would be doing creative art projects with them each week, such as painting and learning the color wheel.

They would just automatically know how to pee and poop on the potty at age 2.

They would be so well behaved that we would travel overseas on vacations.

They would learn to play an instrument before going to grade school.

They would be outgoing and want to do all kinds of activities.

They would be able to swim like fish by age 3.

We would have a boat and take them skiing and tubing at a lake.

We would have family close by to help out. (like they would magically appear where ever we lived!)

I would still be able to have my career and be there for them 100% of the day.

They would take great pictures and ham it up for the camera.

My parents and grandparents would live forever to see my kids grow.

And last of all: I thought they would stay with me forever.

 

Now fast forward to 2008! Ah… my hair feels so much better now.

 

Here is the Real Picture:

My kids would look just like me. 

Well, the boy sorta does, but the girl! Well… what do you think?? 

Mini Daddy! This black haired thing came out of me and I was like “Say what???” Yeah, I’m sad to say there was no bonding right away. She had to grow on me. ha! I’m soooo bad! 

 

They would sleep though the night.

For those of you who’s kids slept through the night right away, sorry, I hate you! My first born finally slept more than 6 hours straight after about 10 months.

 

I would be doing creative art projects with them each week, such as painting and learning the color wheel.

I’m such a slacker here! This is my thing too. I have always have grand plans, but most of the time we just draw with markers or play with stickers. I’m too lazy to clean paint off of children:-)

 

They would just automatically know how to pee and poop on the potty at age 2.

I never knew you had to work with them. Sometimes for years!  Boy, did I ever find out the hard way!! 

 

They would be so well behaved that we would travel overseas on vacations.

Now I cringe just thinking about this! ha. We were just on a flight from hell with a dramatic 2 year old and it was only to North Carolina. 

 

We would have family close by to help out (like they would magically appear where ever we lived!).

The closest relative is 5 hours away.

 

They would learn to play an instrument before going to grade school.

Does a really bad sounding harmonica count? My granddad played the fiddle and my aunt sang, played guitar and fiddle. There was always music at my grandparent’s house. Like the previous item, I just thought family would magically always be around and my kids would absorb the musical talent.

 

They would be outgoing and want to do all kinds of activities.

I have tried and tried, year after year,  as my son clung to my leg, to get him to try new things. He would rather be home wearing his Batman costume playing on the computer. At least he loves one thing, soccer. That boy can RUN!

 

They would be able to swim like fish by age 3.

I spent a lot of time and money on my son to learn survival swimming. By 18 months he could swim like a fish, it was so cool. Then boom! The next summer he was clinging to my leg. He just now started swimming. Better late than never. The baby, well, she’s a diva and doesn’t like to get her hair wet!

 

We would have a boat and take them skiing and tubing at a lake.

I used to go boating all the time. That was another life. Too busy to even think about that now. I sure do miss it though.

 

I would still be able to have my career and be there for them 100% of the day.

I work from home (not the grand career my 80’s self had planned) and I am never there 100% of the time. Who really is? If you are, I bow down before you:-) My kids watch T.V. and go to preschool a few hours a week. There I said it, it’s out there. I’m not a perfect mommy. I just do my best and try to keep my head above water. I think the toughest job in the world is working from home with preschoolers. At least my clients are used to hearing screams in the background. ha! I stay up really late, hardly ever have clean laundry and drink lots of coffee! I figure as long as you are with them at home, you don’t have to be playing with them 100% of the time. They are happy to be near you, smell you, and get a hug when they fall. It is hard to not feel guilty when your baby is running around with a stinky diaper while you’re on a conference call and hiding in your closet. More details on this topic will appear later on another post:-)

**Side note about the laundry. Thanks to my husband for doing the laundry. We would all be some funky smelling people if it weren’t for you:-)

 

They would take great pictures and ham it up for the camera.

How I wish this were true. I get more shots of the back of my kid’s heads!! Grrrrrr… Sit still already! 

 

My parents and grandparents would live forever to see my kids grow.

I’m so sad that my kids don’t have any men in their life but their Daddy. My dad passed away before I was married. He would have gotten so much joy from his grandkids! Both Granddads are gone too. On the brighter side, my grandma has the longevity gene and might just live forever! ha. She’s 82 (I think?) and still working! Go Grandma! We have lots of grandmas and aunts to be thankful for.

 

And last of all: I thought they would stay with me forever.

This hit home the day my boy left for kindergarten and started all these rambling thoughts. We need to cherish them while we have them. The preschool and elementary stages of life are so tiring and challenging! Life with kids may not be what we imagined, but we have them and that’s what matters!! God hand-picked the perfect kids for us. They are each unique little people and wouldn’t life be boring if they were all that we pictured or just like us? Where is the adventure in that? I plan to love mine as best as I can… and also pray for sanity each day:-)

How did you picture life with kids?  

I’d love to hear your thoughts!





Days of the Week Tags

26 08 2008

Here is an idea I came up with to keep my son organized and ready for school. We picked out clothes for each day of the week and hung them on a low rack for him to reach. Then I designed some cute tags to hang on each outfit. Each tag has the day of the week.

The night before school, my son takes the outfit off the hangers and puts it on the floor by his door. This way he won’t forget to get dressed before coming downstairs. We usually make silly poses with the clothes and that makes it even more fun!

Download my tags and print them for yourselves!

Bright Colored Tags

Pastel Colored Tags

 

P.S.     My son’s first day of Kindergarten was great! There was some drama with fire ants though. A few girls got a bunch of bites on the playground, then the teacher got them all over her. They moved inside to find more ants around the locker. Lots of crying and kids going to the nurses office. I hope the little kids aren’t too freaked out about their first day. That poor teacher! So needless to say, when I asked about school… all I heard about were ANTS! ha. Oh, he was also very happy to discover that “They give you food at school!” Ummm… Yeah…. Mommy sent your lunch with you. “Oh, but they had chicken nuggets they were giving away.” Kids crack me up:-)

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First Day of Kindergarten

25 08 2008
August 25, 2008
You went to Kindergarten today. I thought you would be scared and clinging to my leg. I thought you would cry and I would have to leave you there upset. I thought wrong… you have grown up very fast and become such a big kid!
Wearing your new Transformer’s backback, you strode right into school. As we walked to your class, you did not want to hold my hand, but every once in a while you would look back to make sure I was still with you.
You met your teacher and weren’t too sure about sitting in your seat. For about 30 seconds, your face turned red and tears started to well up in your eyes. I thought I would loose it before you did, but you and I both kept our cool! Good for us! Boy, mommy was way more emotional than she expected to be. Once you knew I could stay until class started you decided it was okay. You still didn’t want to put your bottom down in the seat just yet though.:-)
Finally your friend Dawson got to class and all was good. You didn’t seem to care whether I was there or not. So I hid in the background a took a few photos of you singing your morning song. 
I can’t believe how fast you’ve grown. Your new school jeans fit just right. I usually have to roll up the pants. Your legs have all the sudden gotten long!  You have become a great swimmer and are starting your 3rd season of soccer this week. Yesterday you lost your first tooth and didn’t even cry! It makes me sad, but excited too. You were such an active baby, running by the time you were 11 months old. You wore me out! I could never catch up to you. It seems I still can’t. You will outgrow your daddy and me one day. I wanted to write this letter, so when you are that big you can read it and laugh at me for being sappy, but will also know how much I loved you.
I pray that you will have a great school experience and love your teacher and classmates. I will miss taking you to the grocery store in your Batman costume, eating lunch and running around town together. You are my little buddy and I’m so thankful to have been home with you these first 5 years. It has really gone by quick! I think most of all, your sissy will miss you the most. She will have to learn how to play all by herself. I’m sure there will be many times she will call out your name today. It was sweet when you said, “I’ll play with sissy all the time when I get home from school.” I know that will make her very happy.
Kindergarten is a big time for learning! I’m looking forward to of all the new things we will be able to do together like reading books, writing letters and spelling words! I’m excited for all the new adventures in store for you! I can’t wait to experience it all again through you. Have a wonderful day today and I hope you miss us just a tiny bit. I can’t wait to take you for ice cream and hear all about your BIG day.
Love,
Mom 
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All you moms who have school kids…

Check back tomorrow for a fun idea to stay organized and help your kids get dressed on their own each day!